Want to know the dissolution of every relationship in this world? I can tell you in Three Acts:
ACT ONE: You hurt me.
ACT TWO: I hurt you.
ACT THREE: You hurt me even more because I just hurt you so I hurt you even more then you hurt me then I hurt you then you hurt me then I hurt you then you hurt me, because I just hurt you so I hurt you more then you hurt me then I hurt you then you hurt me then I hurt you then you hurt me, etc…
THE POINT: It’s easy to act cold/hurtful/stonewalling to someone who you feel has said or done something you perceive as cold/hurtful/stonewalling to you.
But that’s the point. THAT’S the EASY thing to do.
Basically, we people as a species aren’t mean or evil.
We are WEAK.
It takes EFFORT to consciously, openly, bravely, warmly speak up about the hurt you feel — AT THE SPEED OF LIFE – before things spiral negatively downward.
Yes, it takes EFFORT to take the high road, and to express your vulnerabilities and concerns with warmth and candor — to the very cold/hurtful/stonewalling person you want to communicate with by simply clunking them on the head.
But this effort is worth it,,, because love and connection are your true sources for happiness — not money, not shoes, not sports cards ….and definitely not the satisfaction of being right about someone/something.
(Yes, I know, that last one really sometimes does feel as if it will bring us happiness…but in the end it brings us more misery than glory.)
So next time someone you care about does something that you feel isn’t very caring at all — put in the effort — the bravery — TO SPEAK UP AT THE SPEED OF LIFE — and kill that relationship monster while it’s still small.
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