You are the common denominator in all your relationship problems. If you keep finding yourself saying, “All the men I date are emotionally unavailable, bad listeners, who suck at communicating and not capable of growing!” well, then, you must ask why you keep picking men who are this way – men whom I’ve labeled “Prince Harmings” in my book PRINCE HARMING SYNDROME.
When I coach some women, they explain how it’s not their fault – ALL the men they meet are that way — to which I say, “You, my dear, are a female chauvinist!”
I remind these women that there are plenty of emotionally available, good-listening, highly communicative, growth-oriented men out there – and then I help them to jackhammer drilldown to understand their pattern of meeting men who are otherwise!
In fact, wherever there’s an all-encompassing “always,” “all” or “never” excuse in your life, it’s a sign that your mischievous subconscious is setting you up for failure by consistently leading you back toward these repeat performances.
In many ways, for many reasons, the subconscious should actually receive bigger and better billing than mere “sub” status. It should be called the “over-and-above-conscious” because it makes so many of your life decisions.
Your subconscious is why your diary can often read like Mad Libs. For instance:
Dear Diary,
I’m___________(mad, resentful, depressed) that ___________(my past paramour, present paramour, future paramour) doesn’t_________(listen to me, respect me, love me more). It reminds me of what happened ______________ (last week, last month, last year, next week, next month, next year) with ____________ (my past paramour, present paramour, future paramour).
So what stops you from seeing that there’s far more love life options out there?
What I call The 3 Cs!
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