How to Be a Single Man With Class

This is a guest post from Adam Garratt. If you like this post, check out more of his stuff at at www.blokebuddy.com.

For many of us in a relationship life is full of love, laughter and cheer. You hold hands and talk about your future. But what about the single guys out there? What do they do with their time?

I am very fortunate to be in love with my gorgeous fiance, but in the past I have been single, and I can tell you now, sitting around moping and feeling sorry for yourself is not an option. You should enjoy life just as much as the mushy couples do. Here is some advice on how to make the most of being a bachelor.

Don’t get up late. Feeling sorry for yourself and falling out of bed at 3 in the afternoon won’t help you. Get up nice and early around 8:00am so you can have a great big breakfast consisting of whatever you like, and start to make your plans for the day. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you can’t have fun too.

Call up some friends. There are two sorts of friends to call when you’re single, but don’t mix the 2 together. The first sort is to ring your mates up, the guys you like to hang out with and see if they are up to anything. The second type of friend is a female companion – not your mate’s sister or someone you know distantly but a girl you have known for some time. She will be a comfort to you and will be sensitive to your situation. Figure our what type of mood you’re in and decide which friends to call.

Don’t get leathered! The male subconscious plays evil tricks on us and if you get drunk you could find yourself getting into embarrassing situations. Your emotions are heightened when you’re single so getting drunk will only exaggerate this. The last thing you want to do is end up either telling your girl mate you’re in love with her, or even worse sleeping with her. Getting drunk when your emotions are running riot is a big no – get merry by all means but stay off the shots!

Do stuff!. Think about what being a single man is all about…having fun! Think about what you like to do in your spare time and do something based around that. For instance, if you like going down the pub all the time, do something different like going on a whiskey or wine tasting day. If you like motor sports then take you and your pals go karting. Being single is about you and what you like, so celebrate it by occupying your day with activities.

Be spontaneous. Being single is also an opportunity to find love. There are going to be women that are single too, so why not go on a date with a girl? She may be your next door neighbor, or she might be the checkout girl at your local store, – just go and ask her out.

If you don’t want to do that why not go to a traffic light party? These are fantastic fun so take yourself and a couple of mates to one. The idea is that the women are dressed in either orange, green or red clothes signaling that red is taken, orange undecided and green available. These nights can be found everywhere these days and are a blast.

Don’t dwell on past lovers. A sure-fire way to make yourself feel like crap is to think about your past lovers. That’s when you start asking yourself questions like ‘what if?’ and ‘maybe if I had done things differently’. Your past lovers are not your concern anymore. The relationship failed because you were two different people that were not compatible with each other. Get over it, move on and start afresh.

Ask your mates to do this……One thing to help you feel better is to ask your mates – both girls and guys – to each write down a list of things that they find great about you. Once you have all the lists back, take a look at what they put about you, and pick out the things that are being said by more than one friend. For instance, if you have 10 mates and 5 of them all wrote down you were funny and another 5 wrote down yourwere good looking, sit back and think for a minute that you’re a handsome funny guy! There are men that would kill for that.

Being single doesn’t mean you have to sit back and watch everyone else smooch and put their hands in each others pockets. Life is just as much about you and what you love in life, so go out and enjoy yourself.

Celebrate like it’s your birthday and take no prisoners – ask that girl out you have been hankering for, go tell your mum and dad they are the best thing in the world. Respect yourself and hold your head up high. You are a man, a big hairy smelly and utterly brilliant man, and no one can take that away from you! Enjoy life fellas.

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