For example… it helps if your honey is VERY smart, or VERY talented, or VERY hardworking, or VERY nice, or VERY funny or VERY supportive, or VERY generous, or VERY full of interesting world lens comments, etc.
Basically… you need to see at least one magical, heart-fluttering quality about this man/woman that makes him/her stand out to you as special — admirable – cherishable – for true love to spring forth. When someone has a “1 VERY” aspect, it’s a sign of good, strong character – which Aristotle says is essential to find in a partner – because the healthiest, happiest relationships are what he calls “RELATIONSHIPS OF SHARED VIRTUE” – where you inspire each other to operate at your highest character, best potential.
Simultaneously, although finding one VERY in your partner is VERY good, finding two VERY aspects can be VERY bad.
For example… if your partner/crush is VERY, VERY funny – NON-STOP FUNNY – well, then, this might be a red flag — a sign that this person might be using all that ha-ha-ha laughter to avoid honest, open communication – and later, when you try to connect soul to soul—heart to heart—you might be greeted by a gigantic, unmovable whoopie cushion wall.
Or…if your partner/crush is VERY, VERY hardworking – this might also be a red flag a-waving that they might be VERY, VERY emotionally unavailable – leaving you VERY, VERY lonely.
Or…if your partner is VERY, VERY extravagant with money on you – they might be VERY, VERY low in self esteem — and trying to buy your love – without valuing what makes you (and themselves) truly priceless.
The list of “VERY, VERY” danger zones is endless. But the common red flag in all of them is the same. If someone is a VERY, VERY EXTREME of something – this means they are not operating from a place of what Aristotle calls THE MEAN ZONE – aka: the moderation zone.
According to Aristotle, everything has a MEAN ZONE/MODERATION ZONE —all of life’s actions, feelings and material goods.
Even lovingness has a mean zone! It exists somewhere between coldness and co-dependent suffocation!
Even truthfulness has a mean zone! It exists somewhere between outright lying and being hurtfully direct!
Even courageousness has a mean zone! It exists somewhere between fearfulness and rashness!
Even niceness has a mean zone! It exists somewhere between being a spineless worm and a jerk!
Let’s just take a quick moment to consider this last MEAN ZONE – of NICENESS. If sometimes you haven’t been attracted to a guy/gal because you feel that he/she’s “TOO nice!”—you were intuitively correct for not being attracted. According to Aristotle, it is actually not “strong character” to be a spineless, wormy, too nice person.
Guess what else?
You too must watch out for being a VERY, VERY spineless wormy too nice person. (After all, It’s hard to be your most attractive self when you have footprints on your face!)
YOUR ASSIGNMENT:
Brainstorm which one VERY special things your partner/crush has that make you all a-flutter? Compliment your partner/crush about them today. Next, brainstorm if they have any red flag VERY, VERY danger zones. If so, you might want to chat with them about them today. Oh – ditto for yourself. Brainstorm which one VERY special things you have to offer a partner — and let yourself feel proud and happy. Next – brainstorm if you have an VERY, VERY aspects you might need to tone down about yourself to rise up to your highest character, so you can be in your best relationship!
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