Author: Kelly – Simmons College

Everyone’s got their celebrity/iconic role models. Some look up to Hillary Clinton for being such a strong, empowered woman. Some look up to Lady Gaga for being who she is, regardless of what other people think. Some may even look up to Tyra for proving that crazy people can get famous too.

Personally, I think all of those women are great (or crazy, in the case of the last one), but I have my own role models, whom I look up to for something very near and dear to my heart: sex. These women are all confident, beautiful, and not afraid to talk about sex. I have invited each of these women into my bedroom (their attitudes, at least)  and each has helped me enjoy sex and my own sexuality a whole lot more.

Halle Berry

Quote: “I’ve learned my tricks. I know what I like. I do not wait around. I initiate. And I’m not all about frequency. I favor intensity.”

Why She Rocks: She knows good sex and isn’t afraid to ask for it.

How She Inspired Me: I don’t have to be afraid of my sexuality; it’s OK for me to have needs and do what I can to fulfill them.

Jada Pinkett-Smith

Quote: “My husband and I always make time for sex! Always! No matter how busy we are. And if I told you the places! You would not even believe! It’s crazy the risks that we take, but that’s what keeps it so much fun.”

Why She Rocks: She proves that committed people don’t have to have boring sex lives.

How She Inspired Me: It’s easy to get caught up in the day to day stuff in a relationship, but Jada reminded me that we gotta make time to spice things up, otherwise things can go down hill quickly.

Meryl Streep

Quote: “The whole idea that you have to look a certain way and be a certain age to earn love is ridiculous. We love what we love. It doesn’t matter what shape it is. It’s thrilling to see real people on screen.”

Why She Rocks: She’s still doing sex scenes at 60 and she’ll probably be doing them for years to come.

How She Inspired Me: We’re all sexy – no matter what shape, size or age – and we just always need to remember that.

Goldie Hawn

Quotes (from Kate Hudson): “My parents always said, ‘Sex is the best thing in the world…When you start having it you’re going to love it. But it’s that much better when you love somebody, so just remember that.’”

“People think that you can put your sexual life on hold [after having a baby], but you have to find time for it. Without that relationship, our family is broken. My mom really implanted that in me when I was pregnant.”

Why She Rocks: If only all parents could be as open about discussing sex with their kids, maybe we wouldn’t have such high teen pregnancy and STD rates.

How She Inspired Me: No, Goldie didn’t have me running to my parents to ask about their sex lives. But she did get me to stop, take a moment, and appreciate sex for the beautiful, powerful and awesome thing that it can be.

Angelina Jolie

Quotes: “Honestly, I like everything. Boyish girls, girlish boys, the thick, the thin. Which is a problem when I’m walking down the street.”

“All women do have a different sense of sexuality, or sense of fun, or sense of, like, what’s sexy or cool or tough.”

“You’re young, you’re drunk, you’re in bed, you have knives; sh*t happens…”

Why She Rocks: Angelina is one celebrity who was never afraid to speak honestly about her sex life, no matter how strange other people found it, and I admire her for that. She’s also remained sexy and confident while managing to be a great mom to six kids.

How She Inspired Me: Sometimes I’m afraid to try new things in the bedroom, but if Angelina can do it (and snag Brad Pitt), why not me?

Scarlett Johansson

Quote: “I’ve never had sex with Benicio Del Toro in a lift. It was a sarcastic quote that I unfortunately gave to a journalist. I said: ‘Apparently, Benicio Del Toro and I had sex in an elevator. He printed it, then all the tabloids took out the word ‘apparently’. I’ll be answering that question for the rest of my life.”

Why She Rocks: If only the Benicio story were true…

How She Inspired Me: I assume she’s had sex with Ryan Reynolds in an elevator without anyone finding out and that’s something I’ve always wanted to do…

As we all know, sex doesn’t always happen like it does in the movies (especially of the porn variety). Here are some tips to help deal when things get a little less magical and a lot more awkward.

Mr. Mute
He hasn’t made a single sound since we started – what do I do?

1. Check to see if he’s still awake. If he’s sleeping (or passed out) roll over and pretend you passed out too. This will make things way less awkward in the morning. And don’t worry – it happens to the best of us. It’s not that your signature move was so boring it put him to sleep; it’s probably due to a little too much Natty Light. If he’s awake, proceed to step two.
2. Say his name and make some noises yourself. Hopefully he’ll feel more comfortable and speak up. Still not working?
3. Bite him really hard so that he yelps in pain. If he still doesn’t make a sound, he’s probably in some sort of hypnotic trance. Pride yourself on being so amazing in bed you stunned him, then get the hell out of there lest you be blamed when he ends up in a coma.

Bloody Mary
Uh-oh, my period came early this month. What do I do?

1. “I’m so glad my first time was with you!” This can work if you say it sincerely (it could be a fun way to freak out your one night stand) or if you say it jokingly to take the edge off.
2. Clean it up. If his sheets are a mess, offer to wash them with him.
3. Move on. Most men won’t be traumatized for life after seeing a little bit of blood, so be the two consenting adults that you are and get over it.

Stage Fright
He can’t get it up, help!

1. Assure him that you’re in no rush and love just making out. Taking the pressure off might help him get into the right state of mind. Not working?
2. Cut your losses. Pushing the situation for too long will just make him more embarrassed. Find something fun to do instead that takes his mind off things and shows him you don’t care either.
3. “But I’m still horny!” If that’s the case, you can always ask for some oral pleasure. Most of the time (unless you skipped over #2 and he’s now crying in the fetal position) he won’t want to leave you high and dry and will be more than happy to please.

Welcome to the Sahara
I’m really turned on, but the juices aren’t flowing. What do I do?

1. If you have lube, use it! There’s no shame in needing some extra moisture.
2. No lube? Saliva works great, and it’s more fun to apply.
3. If it still feels too dry or hurts, don’t push yourself or you’ll be sore afterward. Find some other way you can both be satisfied.

What awkward situations have you run into? How did you deal?

Our newsfeeds this week were full of grown people acting like toddlers. News flash: if you’re annoyed by Facebook, log off. Or send your gripes to me ([email protected]). Trust me, it’s therapeutic.

20-Year-Old Who Still Goes Crying To Her Mommy Neil just dragged me down a flight of stairs by my leg laughing and all my mom has to say is ” Neil dont do that”

Frustrated Frank f*ck you and your punctuation f*ck grammar in general especially on facebook and how the f*ck do you make an event thing with this im like a monkey trying to hump a doorknob over here
Frank’s Friend Well maybe if you were smart enough to use punctuation, you’d be smart enough to use facebook.

Addicted Addison is so annoyed by the fact that she’s on facebook when she could be doing a billion other things. She wonders how much her life would change if she deleted her account…hmm!

Vaguely Vying For Attention is giving up. over this. done.

Naughty Nick is grounded for the week
Nick’s Friend arent you in college?

Heartless Hilda Hates kids that have herpes

Girl Who Doesn’t Realize Her Mom Has Facebook Successfully snuck out, then back in

Obsessed With Exclamations Being an insomniac SUCKS!!!!!!! God doesn’t ever want me to sleep!!! send me drugs asap if you have them!!!!!!