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So far so good!<\/p>\nI don’t have a lot of New Year’s Resolutions. My life has been in so much flux in the past few years that I think my main resolution is to survive in a healthy manner and be a good example to the kids.<\/p>\n
So far so good!<\/p>\n
But, it is impossible to go into the New Year without thinking of changing some things about yourself and your life. I will be divorced in 2010. I never thought it would happen to me. I had been married for 30 years and I thought that we were working out the glitches that seem inevitable at midlife. I have to admit some pride in the fact that I had been married for so long, that we were a family that according to statistics no longer exists. It was humbling to become a statistic.<\/p>\n
The idea of building another relationship from scratch was and is frightening to me. The idea that someone could find me attractive at age 49-almost-50 is a bit of a stretch for me, too. Yes, I will get married again if things work that way because I like being married.\u00a0 I like everything about being a wife.\u00a0 And I like sharing parenting duties much more than being the single decision maker.<\/p>\n
My goals in 2010 are simply to be more and more the woman that God created me to be and to create the best life I can with what He allows in my life this year. Whether you believe in God or not, that is a simple and yet important goal. Be more of who you really are; create the best you can with what you are dealt.<\/p>\n
To do this I must forgive. I must encourage myself to heal. And I must look at those things I did to contribute to the demise of my marriage. In order to move into the future I must let go of the past.<\/p>\n
Imagine yourself caught between your past and your future. You can’t go back…it just isn’t possible. You can’t move forward because the weight of all the years behind you is not letting you move. The only wise thing to do is admit the past is past and open your hand to let it go. Cry as it slips away from you if you must but turn your eyes toward all that you have to look forward to. The past is largely a perception created in your own mind. The future is the same. The present is the only reality that you get and while you can’t use it to change your past you can use it to create a stellar future if you want to. After all, in order to raise healthy kids we must be healthy parents.<\/p>\n
So, while everyone else is making resolutions?\u00a0 Just say goodbye and walk into 2010 with freedom. I think it is going to be a very good year. What about you?<\/p>\n
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