{"id":134938,"date":"2010-01-04T08:06:21","date_gmt":"2010-01-04T13:06:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.blisstree.com\/?p=137939"},"modified":"2010-01-04T08:06:21","modified_gmt":"2010-01-04T13:06:21","slug":"divorce-cooties","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/134938","title":{"rendered":"Divorce Cooties"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I have said it before. I never thought it would happen to me. Yet here I am&#8230;about three months away from my 30th wedding anniversary and I am about to be divorced. There won&#8217;t be a 30th wedding anniversary.\u00a0 At least not for us.<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-137940\" src=\"http:\/\/images1.blisstree.com\/files\/2010\/01\/broken-heart-300x198.jpg\" alt=\"broken-heart\" width=\"300\" height=\"198\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Having been deeply involved in a church that is full of long term marriage this was a shock. It wasn&#8217;t what I wanted nor what I expected. And I found out that even your long time friends are affected by the phenomena I like to call <em>&#8220;Divorce Cooties&#8221;<\/em>.\u00a0 You know, you finally look up from the ground where you are laying with your teeth kicked in &#8211; take a deep breath &#8211; and look around to find that you are staring at the backs of almost\u00a0 everyone you ever trusted as they scamper away lest they be tainted by your <em>divorce cooties.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>People grill your children. Near strangers ask you odd, personal questions and express a little too much criticism for how you are handling things. God forbid, don&#8217;t meet anyone else and begin to glue your life back together. Then you get to glue a scarlet A to your chest and change your name to Hester Prynne&#8230;. even if you are being as virginal as a 90 year old nun.<\/p>\n<p>Frustrating? Yes.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand my kids are handling things just fine despite the voiced concerns of people who really haven&#8217;t bothered to talk to them. Far from pining away they are working through their hurt, grief and other emotions in a healthy way. We all are.\u00a0 One of the benefits of keeping those lines of communication open is that you really do communicate.<\/p>\n<p>We are handling this the way any healthy group would handle anything. We talk, we cry, we laugh, we yell, we talk more. Together. And truly, we will get over this&#8230; we will get past it..and we will be stronger, better, more compassionate people because of it.<\/p>\n<p>Are you going through divorce? Do you know someone who is? How are you handling the emotions? Are you experiencing the <em>Divorce Cooties Syndrome?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>image:<a href=\"http:\/\/www.sxc.hu\/photo\/975584\">SXC<\/a><br \/>\n<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Post from: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.blisstree.com\">Blisstree<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.blisstree.com\/articles\/divorce-cooties\/\">Divorce Cooties<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I have said it before. I never thought it would happen to me. Yet here I am&#8230;about three months away from my 30th wedding anniversary and I am about to be divorced. There won&#8217;t be a 30th wedding anniversary.\u00a0 At least not for us. Having been deeply involved in a church that is full of [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":223,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-134938","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-news"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/134938","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/223"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=134938"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/134938\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=134938"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=134938"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=134938"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}