{"id":197851,"date":"2010-01-19T02:45:00","date_gmt":"2010-01-19T07:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thatsfit.ca\/2010\/01\/19\/when-only-one-of-you-wants-a-baby\/"},"modified":"2010-01-19T02:45:00","modified_gmt":"2010-01-19T07:45:00","slug":"when-only-one-of-you-wants-a-baby","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/197851","title":{"rendered":"When Only One of You Wants a Baby"},"content":{"rendered":"

Filed under: Love & Relationships<\/a>, Advice<\/a>, How to Be Happy<\/a><\/p>\n

\n\"\"Maybe he’s collecting booties and you’re dreaming about backpacking through South America. Or maybe you’re looking enviably into every stroller you pass while he’s window shopping for big-screen TVs. Should you start poking holes in your diaphragm or just call it quits? What happens when one partner wants kids and the other doesn’t? We asked <\/span>Dr. Scott Haltzman<\/a>, a psychiatrist and the author of <\/span>The Secrets of Happy Families<\/span>, to discuss some of the issues involved and offer some tips on what you can do.<\/span><\/p>\n

Q: If you want a baby and your partner doesn’t, where can you start? Are those reconcilable positions?<\/p>\n

<\/span>A: It depends on how you define “partner.” If your current partner doesn’t want to have kids, but it’s not the partner you plan on having for life, that can work really well. One might even argue that it’s the best thing. But if it’s a life partner with whom you are working together to form plans about the future, then it is a pivotal issue. Not everybody that wants to have a child ends up having a child. Sometimes it’s just because of someone’s social situation or it’s due to infertility — but the inability to have a child doesn’t keep couples from connecting even if they want a child. But when one person wants a child and the other person doesn’t, it becomes a built-up resentment because one person feels like their partner is preventing them from accomplishing a life dream, or the other partner feels like they’re being forced into something that goes against their wishes.
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\nQ: Can you bring someone around to your point of view, or is it dangerous to even try?<\/span><\/p>\n

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Filed under: Love & Relationships, Advice, How to Be Happy Maybe he’s collecting booties and you’re dreaming about backpacking through South America. Or maybe you’re looking enviably into every stroller you pass while he’s window shopping for big-screen TVs. Should you start poking holes in your diaphragm or just call it quits? What happens when […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2979,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-197851","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-news"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/197851","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2979"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=197851"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/197851\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=197851"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=197851"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=197851"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}