{"id":255767,"date":"2010-01-31T15:29:56","date_gmt":"2010-01-31T20:29:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.blisstree.com\/?p=140927"},"modified":"2010-01-31T15:29:56","modified_gmt":"2010-01-31T20:29:56","slug":"help-i%e2%80%99m-obsessed-with-his-past","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/255767","title":{"rendered":"Help! I\u2019m Obsessed With His Past"},"content":{"rendered":"

The past can make a strong and ugly appearance in the present…if you let it.\u00a0 His past experiences<\/strong> related to sex, love, drugs, or bad decisions<\/strong> could get into your head and haunt you forever.\u00a0 Why did he do those things?\u00a0 What does it say about who he is?\u00a0 What does it say about you?\u00a0 The questions<\/strong> could keep coming and you can be certain that you will never get any answers<\/strong> that help you to get over it.<\/p>\n

I’ve experienced<\/strong> and witnessed many many relationships where one becomes absolutely obsessed with the past of the other<\/strong>.\u00a0 These usually occur when one person is more “experienced”<\/strong> in certain areas or when situations in your past make you put these situations on your significant other.\u00a0 It happens to both boyfriends and girlfriends and can be a painful fight<\/strong> that comes up again and again.\"1077691_dark_secrets___\"<\/p>\n

Getting over someone’s past can be one of the most difficult experiences<\/strong> that you encounter in your relationship, but I guarantee that when you finally let it go you will feel free<\/strong> and open to deciding what the future may hold for you and your loved one.\u00a0 The longer you obsess over the past, the longer you are giving power to situations that you can not control<\/strong>.\u00a0 Strength in any relationship comes from realizing that you can find happiness in what you have the ability to control.\u00a0 The past is the past…it is there and it will not go away<\/strong>.\u00a0 It will not change, and there is nothing you can do to erase it.<\/p>\n

It’s okay to have feelings about someone’s past, but you need to stop yourself from obsessing<\/strong> over it.\u00a0 Obviously obsessions of any type are unhealthy, but behaviors like Facebook stalking<\/strong>, Googling obsessively, eavesdropping on private conversations, snooping through his things, and reading his emails<\/strong> signal dangerous behavior<\/strong> that will only result in hurting yourself.\u00a0 There is no need to find details about the past…it will only feed your obsession and cause you to ask more accusatory questions.<\/p>\n

If you are obsessed with your partner’s past you need to analyze it closely to figure out what to do.<\/p>\n