{"id":272094,"date":"2010-02-03T16:00:13","date_gmt":"2010-02-03T21:00:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/collegecandy.com\/?p=52949"},"modified":"2010-02-03T16:00:13","modified_gmt":"2010-02-03T21:00:13","slug":"ask-a-dude-more-than-a-one-night-stand","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/272094","title":{"rendered":"Ask A Dude: More Than a One-Night Stand?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Hey Dude,
\n(Remember that show? Ha.)<\/p>\n

Recently I had what I assumed was my first legit one-night stand.\u00a0 Chatted up a friend of a friend at a bar, decided to accept his invitation to go home with him.\u00a0In the morning as I was getting ready to leave for work, he mentioned that “we’re going to a party tonight, give us a call.” I assumed this meant him and the mutual friend and was probably just him saying it to make me feel less awkward about last night, especially since I didn\u2019t have his number.\u00a0 But a little later he mentioned hanging out that night again, asked if I had his number and then wrote it down for me.\u00a0 After work I gave him a call but he didn’t answer.\u00a0 I left a message with my name saying if had been wondering what was going on that night and that I\u2019d talk to him later, and never heard back from him.\u00a0 Should I try calling again or just let it go as a one night thing?<\/p>\n

– Clueless<\/span><\/p>\n

Dear Clueless,<\/p>\n

Are you suffering from mixed signals? Did he seem like a prince but now you\u2019re afraid he\u2019s a frog? Did he tell you to call and then seemingly abandoned you to voicemail Hell? You might also be experiencing occasional bouts of frustration, self-doubt, and homicidal thoughts. If so you could be suffering from a**holeitis. But then again, you may be the victim of fatal coincidences.<\/p>\n

What pisses me off about your predicament is that you got sucked into something you didn\u2019t want! You thought everything was on the level, you knew your role and the guy knew his, and suddenly he flips you on your back (or were you on top?). What happened?<\/p>\n

Clueless, you\u2019ve been duped by the idea <\/em>of a one-night stand. The fantasy of one-night stands is that emotional attachment is not a risk; NSA (No Strings Attached, not the agency Bush used to spy on Americans\u2019 porn e-mails); free love; a fun night of in and out, and enjoy the memory. One-night stands don\u2019t end at the orgasm (if you\u2019re fortunate to be with a guy sober enough to get you there.) But fear not, Clueless, there\u2019s a way out. First let\u2019s examine the possible diagnoses:<\/p>\n

A**holeitis:<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

If the prince\u2019s a reptile the following are reasons why he gave you his number: he was testing you to see if you\u2019d call him, he wanted to make sure he had a booty call for that night, or he\u2019s trying to make you not<\/strong> feel like a one-night stand.<\/p>\n

Fatal Coincidences:<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Maybe he\u2019s not a snake in the grass, just a shnook (does anybody else get this Chuck<\/em> reference?). Perhaps he\u2019s a victim of circumstances: his phone\u2019s dead or broken (like my iPhone every 5 weeks), he\u2019s unbelievably busy and wants to make sure he\u2019s got the time to talk, someone really close to him died (this one\u2019s based on a real experience), or there\u2019s the old \u201che got hit by a Hummer pushing a child out of harm\u2019s way and has amnesia (or he could be in a coma!)\u201d scenario.<\/p>\n

Here are the doctor\u2019s orders<\/strong><\/em>: you\u2019ve placed the ball in his court and now you must stop playing the game. You\u2019ve called and you\u2019ve called – keep calling you run the risk of coming off as creepy. As soon as you\u2019ve put him out of your mind either he\u2019ll call you or you won\u2019t care anymore. The worst thing you can do is to obsess over someone you\u2019re not sure wants to see you. Take a deep breath, lose yourself in a guilty pleasure, and get the burden of his choices off your shoulders. If you don\u2019t, you might be closing yourself off to meeting someone worth those extra minutes.<\/p>\n

Saving you from sleepless nights,
\nDr. Dude<\/p>\n

[Got a Dude itch you just can’t scratch? Sick of getting the pity-eyes as you sift through the Self-Help section at your campus bookstore? Over wondering what those boys are thinking?\u00a0 We got your back, girlfriend. Send your question over to askthedude@collegecandy.com<\/strong>. The Dude won\u2019t sugarcoat it, beat around the bush, or any other weird cliche that means lie to you. Like a nice, juicy hot dog, he\u2019ll be 100% real beef, 100% of the time.\u00a0 So bring it on, ladies.]<\/em><\/p>\n

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