{"id":293017,"date":"2010-02-08T03:00:00","date_gmt":"2010-02-08T08:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.grist.org\/article\/2010-02-08-ask-umbra-on-engagement-rings-straws-and-napkins\/"},"modified":"2010-02-08T03:00:00","modified_gmt":"2010-02-08T08:00:00","slug":"ask-umbra-on-engagement-rings-straws-and-napkins","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/293017","title":{"rendered":"Ask Umbra on engagement rings, straws, and napkins"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\t\t\t\tby Umbra Fisk <\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/feeds.grist.org\/contact\/ask-umbra-a-question\">Send your question<\/a> to Umbra!<\/p>\n<p>Q. <strong>Dear Umbra,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><strong>My boyfriend<br \/>and I are talking seriously about marriage, and he knows I don&#8217;t want a diamond<br \/>ring (at least not a new one) because of the social and environmental<br \/>impacts. You <a href=\"http:\/\/feeds.grist.org\/article\/umbra-rings\">addressed this topic in 2003<\/a>, saying the only good options were no ring<br \/>or a used ring. I&#8217;m wondering if, in the past seven years of &#8220;green&#8221;<br \/>innovation, there might be other options to consider.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><strong>Thanks,<\/strong><br \/><strong>Sarah<br \/>Washington,<br \/>D.C.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>A. Dearest Sarah,<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>You know, I just can&#8217;t get that song out of my head. If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring<br \/>on it\/If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it &#8230; OK, that&#8217;s<br \/>actually the only part I know, so it&#8217;s just running on a mental loop as I write<br \/>this.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Obviously, your boyfriend cares a great deal about your finger because<br \/>he does, in fact, want to adorn it with a ring. And while, sure, the most eco-friendly<br \/>options may be to have no ring at all or opt for a second-hand band, they<br \/>aren&#8217;t the only ways to celebrate your engagement in a socially and<br \/>environmentally responsible fashion. Maybe it&#8217;s just because I smell Valentine&#8217;s<br \/>Day in the air, but I think there&#8217;s something lovely about what the ring<br \/>represents, despite its roots as a sort of down payment.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>A couple of things to look for if you&#8217;re going the new ring route:<br \/>recycled metals and responsible diamond sourcing. I won&#8217;t take you through the<br \/>whole depressing diatribe&#8212;check out <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nodirtygold.org\/dirty_golds_impacts.cfm\">No Dirty Gold&#8217;s site<\/a> or <a href=\"http:\/\/diamondfacts.org\/conflict\/eliminating_conflict_diamonds.html\">DiamondFacts.org<\/a> for more info. But I will say mining metals is a dirty business; it takes 20<br \/>tons of mining waste to produce just one gold band. And the cyanide used to<br \/>extract gold from ore is highly toxic. Plus, the unethical treatment of diamond<br \/>mine workers, as well as the horror of <a href=\"http:\/\/wedding.theknot.com\/getting-engaged\/engagement-rings\/articles\/the-scoop-on-conflict-free-diamonds.aspx\">conflict<br \/>or blood diamonds<\/a>, is a major issue. You need to get the real down-low on where<br \/>your diamond is sourced&#8212;take a look at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.brilliantearth.com\/howtobuy-conflict-free-checklist\/\">Brilliant<br \/>Earth&#8217;s Conflict Free Diamond Buying Guide<\/a>, which includes a handy list of questions<br \/>to ask a jeweler. Other companies known for adhering to ethical social and<br \/>environmental standards include <a href=\"http:\/\/www.greenkarat.com\/\">GreenKarat<\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/www.ingleandrhode.co.uk\/\">Ingle &amp; Rhode<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>You could always go a completely<br \/>untraditional route with a <a href=\"http:\/\/www.simplywoodrings.com\/\">wooden<br \/>ring<\/a> made from salvaged wood, a tattooed band, or perhaps a <a href=\"http:\/\/hafsteinnjuliusson.com\/index.php?\/projects\/growing-jewelry\/\">Chia<br \/>Pet-esque ring<\/a>, though a moss-growing ring probably won&#8217;t last as long as<br \/>your love.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Matrimonially,<br \/>Umbra<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>P.S. When it comes time to plan your wedding, check out our <a href=\"http:\/\/feeds.grist.org\/article\/altar-native-energy\">how-to guide for no-<br \/>(or low-) impact nuptials<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Q. <strong>Dear Umbra,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><strong>I enjoy<br \/>drinking out of straws. Is this putting me at risk for BPA contamination? How<br \/>awful of a habit is this for the environment? Are straws recyclable?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><strong>Thank you,<\/strong><br \/><strong>WM<br \/>Portland,<br \/>Ore.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>A. Dearest WM,<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t be ashamed&#8212;I also enjoy drinking straws. But plain and simple:<br \/>Plastic straws suck.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>While they&#8217;re not likely to leach toxic chemicals like BPA and may be<br \/>recyclable (check with your local recycling program to find out), most<br \/>disposable straws are made from polypropylene&#8212;a product of the nasty<br \/>petrochemical industry. And the plastic from the thousands of straws littering<br \/>landfills will never fully break down, so ask yourself: Is it worth it to enjoy<br \/>drinking one beverage from a plastic straw, knowing that the plastic will in<br \/>fact outlive us all? Kind of dramatic, no?<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>The best solution is, of course, no straw at all&#8212;just suck it up,<br \/>tilt that glass, and pour the beverage directly into your mouth. Did that bring<br \/>a little tear to your eye? There, there. Don&#8217;t cry. The good news is that you<br \/>don&#8217;t have to forgo the simple<br \/>pleasure of consuming a cold beverage through a straw in order to honor your<br \/>commitment to the planet. Try opting for a reusable straw made from <a href=\"http:\/\/www.cheftools.com\/RSVP-Endurance-Stainless-Steel-Drink-Straws-Set-of-4-\/productinfo\/03-0181\/\">stainless<br \/>steel<\/a> or <a href=\"http:\/\/glassdharma.com\/straws.html\">glass<\/a> instead.<br \/>Just imagine how impressed your dinner date will be when you turn down the<br \/>waiter&#8217;s disposable straw and whip out your own shiny reusable one. The answer<br \/>is very.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Slurpily,<br \/>Umbra<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Q. <strong>Dear Umbra,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><strong>I have two<br \/>small children, who tend to go through a lot of napkins at meal time. Is it<br \/>better to use recycled paper napkins, or to switch to cloth napkins that I can<br \/>wash with the rest of their never-ending laundry? They typically go through 1&ndash;2<br \/>napkins at each meal and snack time&#8212;so about 5&ndash;10 each per day. Thanks!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><strong>Lucy M.<br \/>Round Rock,<br \/>Texas<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>A. Dearest Lucy,<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Questions like this really do warm my heart. Granted, this falls under<br \/>the small choices category, one I often tell people not to sweat. But you&#8217;re<br \/>essentially asking: Should I opt for the green choice or the green one?<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>The fact is either way you go&#8212;recycled or reusable&#8212;you&#8217;re being a more<br \/>conscious consumer by taking a big step up from choosing disposable napkins.<br \/>Disposables are made from virgin fiber and bleached with chlorine (which<br \/>releases carcinogenic dioxins during manufacture&#8212;ick). Why buy bright white<br \/>napkins when your kids are going to soil them soon anyway? If every household<br \/>in the United States replaced just one package of virgin fiber napkins with<br \/>100% recycled ones, we could keep 1 million trees standing.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>That said, let&#8217;s take a look at reusable cloth napkins&#8212;the optimal<br \/>choice, in my opinion, if you pick the right ones and care for them in the most<br \/>eco-friendly fashion. Opting for secondhand napkins or ones made from reclaimed<br \/>material&#8212;or getting crafty and <a href=\"http:\/\/sewing.about.com\/od\/homedecprojects\/ss\/clothnapkin.htm\">making<br \/>your own<\/a>&#8212;conserves new resources. If you&#8217;d rather buy new ones, choose organic<br \/>cotton or <a href=\"http:\/\/feeds.grist.org\/article\/umbra-hemp\">hemp<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Odds are that your kids will get multiple uses out of one cloth napkin<br \/>before it&#8217;s washed, so you won&#8217;t be adding mountains of dirty laundry. When it<br \/>is time for a cleaning, launder the napkins in <a href=\"http:\/\/feeds.grist.org\/article\/umbra-washer\">cold water<\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/feeds.grist.org\/article\/fit-to-be-tide\">NPE-free detergent<\/a>, and skip<br \/>the <a href=\"http:\/\/feeds.grist.org\/article\/dryer-sheets\">dryer sheets<\/a>. Skip<br \/>the dryer, for that matter, and hang your napkins on a <a href=\"http:\/\/feeds.grist.org\/article\/umbra-clothesline\">clothesline<\/a> or indoor<br \/>drying rack. And cut your spaghetti sauce servings down to once a week.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Wipily,<br \/>Umbra<\/p>\n<p><strong>Related Links:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.grist.org\/article\/2010-02-04-ask-umbras-pearls-of-wisdom-on-valentines-day\/\">Ask Umbra&#8217;s pearls of wisdom on Valentine&#8217;s Day<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.grist.org\/article\/2010-02-03-this-mechanical-goat-turns-tps-reports-into-toilet-paper\/\">This mechanical goat turns TPS reports into toilet paper<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.grist.org\/article\/2010-02-01-ask-umbras-video-advice-on-making-your-own-club-soda\/\">Ask Umbra&#8217;s video advice on making your own club soda<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\t\t\t<br clear=\"both\" style=\"clear: both;\"\/><br \/>\n<br clear=\"both\" style=\"clear: both;\"\/><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/ads.pheedo.com\/click.phdo?s=4416584e6e98d7f11848590f27f189de&#038;p=1\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" style=\"border: 0;\" border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/ads.pheedo.com\/img.phdo?s=4416584e6e98d7f11848590f27f189de&#038;p=1\"\/><\/a><br \/>\n<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" height=\"0\" width=\"0\" border=\"0\" style=\"display:none\" src=\"http:\/\/a.rfihub.com\/eus.gif?eui=2223\"\/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Umbra Fisk Send your question to Umbra! Q. Dear Umbra, My boyfriendand I are talking seriously about marriage, and he knows I don&#8217;t want a diamondring (at least not a new one) because of the social and environmentalimpacts. 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