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Seeking a happy relationship? If so – what traits are you prioritzing finding in a partner?<\/p>\nSeeking a happy relationship? If so – what traits are you prioritzing finding in a partner?<\/p>\n
Most of the people I coach say they focus mainly on finding a partner who is sexy, smart, funny, successful, charismatic.<\/p>\n
Although these qualities are important, in my book PRINCE HARMING SYNDROME<\/strong><\/a> I explain how there are 5 essential traits which must come far before these traits.<\/p>\n For the purposes of this blog, I will only be honing in on 1 of these 5 traits – the trait of “happy.”<\/em><\/p>\n Basically, if you want to live happily ever after, your partner has to be healthfully happy!<\/p>\n It’s like this:<\/strong><\/p>\n If your partner is consistently unhappy, it will be as if they are giving off \u201ca smell of unhappiness\u201d<\/em>\u2014which can create two problems:<\/p>\n 1. Firstly, your partner is often not aware that this \u201csmell of unhappiness\u201d<\/em> is emanating from them.\u00a0 They just\u00a0 know \u201cunhappiness is abounding.\u201d<\/em> The risk? They will sniff around, see you close by, then blame that unhappy stench all on you!<\/p>\n 2. Secondly, your partner\u2019s bad unhappiness smell can ruin your mood, making your home environment hard to be within. Sure, it\u2019s good to be there to support your partner\u2014but not if you\u2019re doing it so much it makes you potentially get depressed too.<\/p>\n Psychologists and biologists even have\u00a0 a name for this: \u201cemotional contagion.\u201d They claim unhappiness spreads not just because of obvious psychological reasons\u2014but primal, evolutionary ones.<\/p>\n \u201cThe original form is the contagion of fear and alarm,\u201d said Frans de Waal, a psychologist and primate expert at Atlanta\u2019s Emory University. \u201cYou\u2019re in a flock of\u00a0 birds. One bird suddenly takes off. You have no time to wait and see what\u2019s going on. You take off, too. Otherwise, you\u2019re lunch.\u201d<\/p>\n Translation:<\/strong> Getting caught up in another\u2019s negativity is a hardwired survival mechanism. Psychologists believe that \u201cemotional contagion theory\u201d is also a form of hardwired human mimicry\u2014our instinctive human tendency to unconsciously imitate facial expressions, vocalizations, postures and body movements.<\/p>\n For example:<\/strong> If someone scratches their nose, you might suddenly feel your nostrils twitch. Or if someone yawns and stretches and gets sleepy, you might yawn and feel more tired, too. Mimicry is such a strong foundation of our human emotional development that even at a mere 1-hour old, a newborn infant will be hardwired to mimic a person\u2019s facial gestures. Hence why you can smile at a 1-hour old baby, and this 1-hour old baby\u00a0 will smile back!<\/p>\n Translation: <\/strong>Our built-in human system for mimicry explains why we humans can transfer our good and bad moods to each other\u2014if we aren\u2019t careful!<\/p>\n Numerous studies have shown how when one person in a romantic coupling gets depressed, the other becomes more depressed. Psychologists believe this transfer of emotions is yet another form of empathy. In London\u2019s University College, psychologist Tonia Singer and colleagues used brain scans to explore empathy in 19 romantic couples. She hooked both individuals to brain scans. One partner in the couple was given a slight electric shock while the other partner watched. Each of their scans showed identical brain reactions. Although only one partner was shocked, both partners\u2019 pain centers lit up\u2014as if both had been jolted.<\/p>\n On a more happy note…<\/strong>Howard Friedman, a psychologist at University of California at Irvine thinks \u201cemotional contagion\u201d is also why some people can inspire others to positive action\u2014like a a joyous\/exuberant partner in a romantic coupling. Friedman believes it\u2019s because the happy person\u2019s happy facial expression, happy voice, happy gestures and happy body movements conspire to transmit happy emotions.<\/p>\n For all these reasons, if you want to be in a happy relationship, you must prioritize finding a happy partner. If your partner is consistently unhappy, it won’t matter if they’re incredibly sexy, wildly funny, impressively successful, adorably charismatic — your relationship will be weighed down under the heaviness of their moods.<\/p>\n Hence if you’re single right now, you need to consciously focus on seeking a partner who embraces character values which help them to be emotionally stable, even-tempered, addiction-free, nutritionally balanced, physically active and full of high self-esteem — all of which will better ensure your partner will be healthfully happy – and together you might then live healthfully happily ever after! Oh – and if you enjoy by blog, I’d highly appreciate it if you helped to spread the viral word – by forwarding my url to friends\/family\/coworkers\/crushes, linking to a post on Twitter ( follow me @notsalmon),and\/or joining my FREE Be Happy Dammit newsletter by clicking RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW<\/a> (you’ll be in a friendly crowd of 20,000 happy members!). 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