{"id":505551,"date":"2010-04-02T03:45:00","date_gmt":"2010-04-02T07:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.thatsfit.ca\/2010\/04\/02\/can-modern-marriages-survive-modern-technology\/"},"modified":"2010-04-02T03:45:00","modified_gmt":"2010-04-02T07:45:00","slug":"can-modern-marriages-survive-modern-technology","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/505551","title":{"rendered":"Can Modern Marriages Survive Modern Technology?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Filed under: Love & Relationships<\/a>, Advice<\/a>, Happiness<\/a>, How to Be Happy<\/a><\/p>\n

\"\"Do you find yourself nodding absently and checking your Blackberry as your spouse updates you on his day? Does quality time with your beloved almost always include a laptop? <\/strong>Dr. Edward M. Hallowell<\/strong><\/a>, author of Married to Distraction: Restoring Intimacy and Strengthening Your Marriage in an Age of Interruption<\/em><\/a> (co-written with his wife, Sue George Hallowell), explains how screen addictions and working around the clock can destroy otherwise healthy relationships.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Q: What do you mean when you say that modern marriages are often distracted?<\/strong><\/p>\n

A: The world we live in these days, as opposed to even 10 years ago, is so saturated with data and messages and information – they’re distractions. Tom Friedman calls it “the age of interruption.” We forget that without attention, and attention extended over some time, you can’t develop empathy, closeness and communication and the kind of playfulness that ought to be part of love. And as a result you lapse into just kind of getting things done and checking off lists and communicating the basics on the fly.
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\nQ: And how can these changes and distractions sabotage otherwise good marriages?<\/strong><\/p>\n

A: If there’s not good communication and that feeling of empathy and closeness and support, then you tend toward struggles. People start to feel that their needs aren’t being met, and when you feel your needs aren’t being met you tend to be irritable and more in a blaming, arguing or struggling mode. But the good news is that this is very fixable.<\/p>\n

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