{"id":642466,"date":"2013-02-14T15:00:55","date_gmt":"2013-02-14T20:00:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ted.com\/?p=69384"},"modified":"2013-02-14T15:02:05","modified_gmt":"2013-02-14T20:02:05","slug":"8-great-talks-about-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/642466","title":{"rendered":"8 great talks about love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69385\" alt=\"Esther-Perel-image\" src=\"http:\/\/tedconfblog.files.wordpress.com\/2013\/02\/esther-perel-image.jpg?w=900\"   \/>Esther Perel begins <a href=\"http:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship.html\">today\u2019s talk<\/a> with an intriguing question: \u201cWhy does good sex so often fade even for couples who continue to love each other as much as ever?\u201d It\u2019s a question that\u2019s highly appropriate to think about on Valentine\u2019s Day.<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship.html\" class=\"video_teaser\" ><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/images.ted.com\/images\/ted\/7d8ab7dbfa71c6bf8991a9dff6af926e096e1a96_240x180.jpg\" alt=\"Esther Perel: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship\" width=\"132\" height=\"99\" \/>Esther Perel: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship<span class=\"play\"><\/span><\/a><br \/>\nPerel, the author of the book <i>Mating in Captivity<\/i>, offers a compelling theory for why desire is so hard to maintain in long-term relationships: on the one hand, a relationship must satisfy our deep-seated need for security, dependability and permanence while at the same time meeting our equally strong need for adventure, mystery and the unexpected. It\u2019s a paradox so many couples feel: that great intimacy does not necessarily make for great sex.<\/p>\n<p>For a fascinating look at why we\u2019re experiencing this \u201ccrisis of desire\u201d (hint: it\u2019s the first time in history when we\u2019ve expected marriage to be about passion) and how we can boost out erotic intelligence within the space of a great relationship, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship.html\">watch this talk<\/a>. And below, more great TED Talks in the areas of love, passion and sex.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\/helen_fisher_studies_the_brain_in_love.html\">Helen Fisher: The brain in love<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\/mary_roach_10_things_you_didn_t_know_about_orgasm.html\">Mary Roach: 10 things you didn\u2019t know about orgasm<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\/hannah_brencher_love_letters_to_strangers.html\">Hannah Brencher: Love letters to strangers<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\/helen_fisher_tells_us_why_we_love_cheat.html\">Helen Fisher: Why we love, why we cheat<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\/jenna_mccarthy_what_you_don_t_know_about_marriage.html\">Jenna McCarthy: What you don\u2019t know about marriage<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\/pistol.html\">Thomas Dolby: \u201cLove Is a Loaded Pistol\u201d<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\/isabel_allende_tells_tales_of_passion.html\">Isabel Allende: Tales of passion<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>  <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"http:\/\/feeds.wordpress.com\/1.0\/gocomments\/tedconfblog.wordpress.com\/69384\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/feeds.wordpress.com\/1.0\/comments\/tedconfblog.wordpress.com\/69384\/\" \/><\/a> <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/stats.wordpress.com\/b.gif?host=blog.ted.com&#038;blog=14795620&#038;%23038;post=69384&#038;%23038;subd=tedconfblog&#038;%23038;ref=&#038;%23038;feed=1\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" \/><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/feeds.feedburner.com\/~r\/TEDBlog\/~4\/ttsUadR2KHE\" height=\"1\" width=\"1\"\/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Esther Perel begins today\u2019s talk with an intriguing question: \u201cWhy does good sex so often fade even for couples who continue to love each other as much as ever?\u201d It\u2019s a question that\u2019s highly appropriate to think about on Valentine\u2019s Day. Esther Perel: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship Perel, the author of [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7344,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-642466","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-news"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/642466","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7344"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=642466"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/642466\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=642466"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=642466"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mereja.media\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=642466"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}