I barely have time to breathe, let alone spend QT with the BF.
I’m currently only on my second week back in school. However, in those few days, I’ve managed to become a producer at our student TV station, write a paper on The Godfather script, drop a class because it had too much homework, and signed up to become a licensed real estate agent. I’ve canceled or just flat out forgotten about my friends, and worst of all, I’ve barely seen my boyfriend… even though I live with him.
Now, I know that some of this stress was added by me, myself, and I. I could’ve turned down the producer job and I could’ve decided to wait until summer to get a realtor’s license, but I need to boost my resume for after college and I am running really low on the monies. I know I can manage my time, but the not seeing my boyfriend is really starting to get to me.
I haven’t been getting home until 8pm, and since I have to get up at 8am every morning, I have about 3 hours to do homework, get ready for the next day, and, if I’m lucky, bathe myself before I go to bed. The most quality time I get with the BF these days is the 5 minutes of cuddling before I completely pass out from exhaustion. This pretty much leaves weekends for me to be a proper girlfriend, and even then I’m preoccupied by laundry and grocery shopping, etc.
Between school, work and a committed relationship, it feels like I have three full-time jobs. We don’t think about it often, but a lot of work goes into being in a relationship and I haven’t had the time or energy to pull my weight. And I feel terrible. While being successful as a student, producer and future real estate agent are all important to me and my self worth, I also take pride in the fact that I’m a girlfriend. Matt’s important to me too! I made a promise to him when things got serious that I’d never leave him, but now I find myself leaving him daily for school and work.
Do I wish there was a couple extra hours in the day? Of course I do! But since that’s not happening anytime soon, I have to spend some time managing my time. Just like I write down to-do lists for my homework, I need to start specifically setting time aside to spend more time in my relationship. I have to let Matt know that he is loved and an important part of my life; not playing second fiddle to school and work. The question is: where will I find the time?
Anybody else dealing with the time crunch in a relationship? How do you deal?
