Someday my last child will be out of the house. I will be approximately 62 and by that time I hope to be completely immune to a unique virus. This malady is spoken of only in hushed tones and nervous whispers by those who have experienced the backlash of its displeasure. It makes parents who breezed through the terrible twos tremble with fear. Yes folks, it is TEEN DRAMA.
And if you think that teenage girl drama is the ultimate expression of dramatic angst you have never been around a teenage boy. It is teen drama week here at Chez Audet and emotions are running high. Well, and with good reason. Dragging kids through an unexpected divorce just stinks for all involved. Add the stress of a 17 year old going through college midterms (sophomore year) and trying to juggle his first job, increased responsibility at home, and general hormones…well you get the idea.
The thing to remember when your teen is having a meltdown is that they are dealing with real pain. Maybe you don’ t get it, maybe it seems silly to your intellect but it is massive to them. Here are some things I do to try to get through it unscathed:
- Don’t take it personally
- Allow them to verbalize
- Don’t try to fix it
- Reassure them of your love, acceptance, and pride
- Listen more than you talk
- Don’t assume it is a major psychological or spiritual problem but be willing to get help if it is
- Be willing to step up to the plate and bat for them if they need it. Maybe a few days off from school, chores, or other responsibilities will help them have perspective.
Luckily my kids tend to be thoughtful and drama happens one child at a time. I think they draw straws but I can’t prove it…
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