Mereja

Author: Elizabeth Stanfill

  • Faith In Yourself

    Do you believe in yourself and that you can accomplish your goals?

    Isn’t that a great question?

    Well, do you?

    Do you have faith in yourself?

    A stressful habit we may have, at times, is lack of faith in ourselves. This is a stressful habit because we worry about if we will accomplish what we set out to achieve. This worry causes stress.

    Believe that you can obtain any goal that you set your heart and mind on.

    I know the power within you. You can achieve all that you want. How do I know this? I know this because you are successful. If you have made it this far in life, you are successful. Look at all the things you have accomplished thus far. Look at the relationships you have made, look at the jobs/careers you have or had, and look at all your successes so far.

    You are capable of doing anything you set your heart and mind to.

    If you are having a hard time with having faith in yourself, then do this exercise.

    List all of your accomplishments and mile stones in your life. Include elementary school, Jr. high, high school, sports, arts, music, relationships, vacations, careers, and purchases. I guarantee if you make this list it will remind you how great you are and how great you continue to be.

    Sometimes, as we get older, we stop setting goals, and then we become stagnant. This may be happening to you and that may increase the doubt in yourself.

    Remember all the goals you have set and accomplished so far in your life. This will increase faith in yourself.

    Destress yourself by having faith in yourself and that you can accomplish your goals. When you do this you will discover what you can create in your life.

    When you destress yourself you change your thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitude. You change your thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitude from stressful to successful.

    IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY SOMETHING MUST BE DONE!!!

    If you are not living with happiness, energy, joy, and vitality, something must be done. You can learn to be happy by destressing yourself and I can show you how, for free.

    First, subscribe to this blog in a reader or via email, right there in the right side column.

    Second, go to destressyourself.com, and sign up for our free weekly newsletter. This newsletter will give you solutions to your stress.

    Third, download all of our free audios in our store.

    If you would like to live the life you dream of, let me help you. Learn to destress yourself, by me, for free, and learn what permanent stress relief truly is.

    Thank you for visiting my blog.

    I hope this has been helpful.

    Until next time… Don’t forget to have fun and be playful.

    Elizabeth

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  • Deep Relaxation & Meditation

    When it comes to Meditation we must have an open mind and make a commitment if we want change in our lives.

    When people think of meditation they often think of religion or they think of it as a waste of time. But meditation is the ultimate skill of patience, which gives peace and calm to our minds, bodies, and then to our lives.

    Stress causes a racing mind of worry and fear, which is usually on autopilot. When on autopilot we display unwanted emotions like anger, irritability, and moodiness. When our mind is noisy we are unable to fall asleep, stay asleep, and get essential hours of sleep.

    Other thoughts that may cause disorder in our mind and lives are of what we don’t have, peoples’ offenses, the need to control other people, or lack of faith in ourselves. These stressful thoughts manifest into physical symptoms and cause muscle tension and stiffness.

    A popular meditation technique to help remedy all of the above mentioned is Deep Relaxation Meditation, which is most effective if done everyday.

    When we learn the technique of deep relaxation and do it often enough we will create a habit of being aware of our tension and stiffness throughout the day. In other words, we become more aware and in tuned with our mind and body. This habit allows us to bring ourselves to a relaxed and calm state anywhere at anytime.

    The Deep Relaxation Meditation should be done everyday to produce the habit mentioned above. The best time to do this is right before you go to sleep so that you may create an intentional deep sleep and if you have difficulty sleeping this will also help improve your rest in the evening.

    On the whole, we can benefit from Deep Relaxation Meditation if done two to three times a day. This technique can be done in 5 to 10 minutes.

    The best way to learn this practice is with an instructive audio. After listening once or twice it should be very easy to facilitate on your own.

    A good audio will teach you to begin in a comfortable position with deep breathing exercises. Then the audio will bring you through a process of relaxing every part of your body. Not only does this relax your body it also relaxes your mind because you take yourself out of your thoughts and into the focus of the senses in the body.

    This practice has the benefit of releasing physical strain, quieting the mind, giving the participant peace, and it allows you a spiritual space.

    When your mind is quiet and your body is relaxed you will better be able to hear that still small voice.

    Learn to do a Daily Deep Relaxation Meditation and you will be an expert at destressing yourself and creating happiness in your life.

    When you destress yourself you change your thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitude. You change your thoughts, feelings, and actions of stressful habits to successful practices.

    If you are unhappy something must be done. If you are not living life with happiness, joy, energy, and vitality then you must do something about it.

    You can learn to be happy by destressing yourself and I can show you how, for free. Subscribe to this blog for the updated posts, visit my website, sign up for our free weekly newsletters, visit our store and download the free stress management audios.

    If you would like to live the life you dream of, let me help you. Learn to destress yourself, for free, by me, and learn what permanent stress relief really is.

    Thank you for visiting my blog.

    Hope this is helpful.

    Until next post… Don’t forget to have fun and be playful, it is in your nature.

    Elizabeth

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  • Waking Up Grateful

    Life can be very busy and we can be in a hurry, starting with the moment we wake up. A very stressful habit we may have is getting up and then rushing to go to or get to whatever it is we have for the day. We can create a successful practice by waking up with an attitude of gratitude.


    You can destress yourself by creating a habit of waking up grateful. Rather than waking up, and jumping up, we can wake up, take a deep breath, and think of how grateful we are for things in our life.

    I love my life! Every morning, I wake up, take a deep breath, and recognize that I love my life. I love my bed, my sheets, my pillows, my room, my home, my town (well it’s more like a village which is smaller than a town), my family, my friends, my business, and what I do, everyday.

    This practice is very successful in creating thoughts and feelings that make me feel great. What a wonderful way to start the day.

    It is my belief that we should always start our day off on the right foot. We can start the day off by getting up on the right side of the bed.

    We are totally capable of starting our day off with intention versus starting our day off on auto pilot.

    Let’s take responsibility for our lives by taking responsibility for our days. Let’s begin our day with intention and wake up grateful everyday.

    There are so many things we can be grateful for. We can be grateful for the little things like, our bed, our sheets, and our pillows.

    We can be grateful for bigger things like, the air that we breath, the legs we walk on, the eyes that we see with, the nose that we smell with, the fingers that we touch with, the mind that we think with, and the heart that we love with.

    We can be grateful for things like, the faces that we get to kiss, the people that we love, and the people that love us.

    I am so very grateful for you, this blog, the internet, and for all the good things in this world. There are so many great things in this world!

    I am grateful to help thousands of people destress themselves.

    When you destress yourself you change your thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitude. You change your thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitude of stressful habits to successful practices.


    If you are unhappy something must be done. If you are not living life with happiness, joy, energy, and vitality then you must do something about it. You can learn to be happy by destressing yourself and I can show you how, for free.

    You can subscribe to this blog, for the updated posts, in left column towards the top. You can visit my website, sign up for our free weekly newsletters, and visit our store and download the free stress management audios.

    If you would like to live the life you dream of, let me help you. Learn to destress yourself, for free, by me, and learn what permanent stress relief really is.

    Thank you for visiting my blog. Hope this is helpful. Until next post…

    Don’t forget to have fun and be playful, it is in your nature.

    Elizabeth

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  • Advanced Stress Management

    There are many things we can do that fall under the category of Basic Stress Management. We know that we can eat right, exercise, get plenty of rest, and eliminate addictive habits like caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, and drugs. These behaviors will create energy and it takes energy to manage stress.

    So what do we know about Advanced Stress Management?

    Advanced Stress Management is evolving our stressful habits into successful practices by evolving the mind. In order to evolve our mind we must take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitude. Frequently we live our lives while our thoughts are on autopilot. When our mind is on autopilot we are not necessarily thinking but reacting from our habits. We get up in the morning, without intention, get ready for the day, go to work or school, get home, watch TV, go to bed, and then we do it all over again.

    In order to evolve our mind we must remove ourselves and our thoughts from autopilot and take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitude by living with intention. We can start our day with intention, live our day with intention, and end our day with intention.

    How do we live with intention? One way is we can take our worries and turn them into faith.

    For example, we may be worried about not having enough money. When we worry about not having enough money we may feel doubt and fear about our situation. When we feel doubt and fear we start to make decisions based on this doubt and fear. Some decisions may be to cut back on our expenses and luxuries.

    When we evolve our mind we take responsibility for our thoughts, become aware of our worry, and then focus on a what we want. We focus on a solution, move towards that solution, and that will create faith.

    When we are worried about not having enough money, the opposite would be having more than enough money. This goal of having more than enough money is our intention. We should then wake up in the morning with intention, asking ourselves, “how can I make more money?” We should go through our day thinking, “What can I do today, right now to make more money?” And then we can go to sleep with intention by thinking about what we would like to do to make more money. When we think like this we feel desire and make decisions based on the feelings of desire. Some decisions may be to start a business or look for a better job or career.

    This intentional behavior is taking responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitude.

    We take responsibility for our thoughts by taking them off autopilot and a habit of worry, and focus them on goals.

    We take responsibility for our feelings by removing the doubt and fear and replacing it with intention, expectation, and hope.

    We take responsibility for our actions because we take action towards our goals versus taking action in the direction of our troubles. This behavior creates faith, the opposite of worry.

    And finally, we take responsibility for our attitude by having faith rather than fear.

    Advanced Stress Management is truly evolving the mind by taking responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitude. These successful habits create desire, faith, and confidence by becoming aware of and eliminating thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry.

    If you are a worrier evolving the mind might take some serious dedication. But, when we become accountable for our thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitude, we truly become experts on managing our stress.

    If you are having a hard time and are unhappy something must be done. If you would like to learn more about destressing yourself with advanced stress management I can help you, for free!

    Subscribe to this blog via rss or email (you can do this right here in the right side column) for the updated posts, visit my website, sign up for our free weekly newsletters, visit our store and download the free stress management audios.

    If you would like to live the life you dream of, let me help you. Learn to destress yourself, for free, by me, and learn what advanced stress management really is.

    Thank you for visiting my blog. Hope this is helpful.

    Have a great day and until next post…

    Don’t forget to have fun and be playful, it’s in your nature.

    Elizabeth

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  • About Destress Yourself Dot Com

    “DON’T WORRY, BE HAPPY!”

    ABOUT DESTRESS YOURSELF DOT COM

    Destress Yourself is about finding permanent stress relief and creating happiness, energy, and vitality.

    My name is Elizabeth Stanfill and I am the creator and writer of destress yourself dot com and of The Destress Yourself Blog.

    I live in Sunny Central/Southern (on the boarder) California in Beautiful Town USA. I’m a Mommy, a Daughter, a Sister, and a Friend. Most importantly, a daughter of the Most High, Heavenly Father. I love hanging with family, friends, and helping people.

    When I am not writing and blogging about destressing yourself, I provide free crisis intervention and direction, teach an assortment of stress management classes, and I teach stress management one on one with personal clients.

    The research and writing about stress management began in 1993. Originally, I was an Emergency Medical Technician (EMT), then a Field Training Officer (FTO), and I was a 911 Senior Operations Supervisor for several years.

    During 1997 and 1999, while obtaining my Masters in Counseling, I was interning as a Counselor at the University Counseling Center. My focus became Critical Incident Stress Management (CISM). Subsequent to gaining Certification I became a Peer Counselor. Soon after designing a CISM Program for the largest ambulance company in the United States, I became the CISM Coordinator, and trained the Peer Counselors in the Southern Pacific Region.

    As a result of my experience and my education, I have had the fortunate opportunity to teach thousands of people CISM and Stress Management.

    My passion is Critical Incident Stress Management, Stress Management, and Overcoming Burnout. This is what I call Destressing Yourself, and I have been researching, teaching, and writing about this particular subject for about a decade.

    My expertise is teaching how to ‘Destress Yourself‘ and what this means is I instruct individuals how to discover their stressful habits, that are causing discontent, or worse in life, how to eliminate these habits, and replace them with successful practices that allows explosive jumps in personal and professional performance.

    This is my passion and I am dedicated to helping you discover the journey to ‘Destress Yourself“.

    WHY DESTRESS YOURSELF DOT COM?

    If you are unhappy, something must be done. If you are not living life with happiness, energy, and vitality you must do something about it. You can learn to be happy by destressing yourself and I can show you how, for free!

    If you are stressed out I can help! For Free!

    HOW CAN I HELP YOU?

    Subscribe to this blog.
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    Sign up to our free weekly newsletter.
    When you go to destress yourself dot com, you can sign up for our free weekly newsletters in the bluish box in the right column. This free weekly newsletter will give you education and exercises that you can do to enhance your permanent stress relief.

    Download our free audios on stress management. You will find free downloadable audios in our store.

    I hope this is helpful.

    Until next post, don’t forget to have fun and be playful, because it is in your nature.

    WITH GOD, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE!

    Elizabeth

  • Being In This Moment

    ~DESTRESS YOURSELF BY BEING IN THIS MOMENT~

    Here is another Pithy Post List for you 😉

    What does it mean to be in this moment?

    1. To focus on the here and now.

    2. To focus on the place you are at.

    3. To focus on the person you are with.

    4. To not think of things you have to do.

    5. To not think of what happened yesterday.

    6. To not think of anything.

    What are the benefits of being in this moment?

    1. We take responsibility for our life by taking responsibility of our mind.

    2. We quiet our mind.

    3. We enjoy the moment.

    4. We can feel gratitude.

    5. We can feel faith.

    6. We will have fun.

    7. We release worry.

    8. We intentionally choose our thoughts.

    9. We intentionally choose our feelings.

    10. We intentionally choose our actions.

    11. We become focused.

    12. We become organized.

    13. We become productive.

    How can we be in this moment?

    1. We recognize we can.

    2. We practice meditation so that we may know how to quiet our mind.

    3. We practice being right here and right now enjoying this moment and the person you are
    with.

    4. We practice looking for the good in this moment.

    5. We practice feelings of faith, confidence, certainty, and hope.

    6. We practice having fun and being playful.

    7. We practice focusing on this moment.

    There you have it…

    If you would like to learn more about being in this moment and how to destress yourself, visit my website, sign up for our free monthly newsletter, download our free stress management audios, visit my blog, sign up to get updated posts, and please check out our downloadable audio classes.

    Have a wonderful week and you guessed it…Have fun and be playful it’s in your nature.

    Elizabeth

  • Destress Yourself

    What does it mean to Destress Yourself? Excellent question!

    Destress Yourself means managing stress at a very advanced level. It means to discover your stressful habits and turn them into successful practices.

    Whether you have stress at work, stress at home, stress in your relationship, stress with your finances, or just difficulties coping with stress, you can destress yourself. You can discover stressful habits and turn them into successful practices.

    What are stressful habits? Oh my gosh, there are millions of stressful habits and yet everyone has their own unique ways of causing their own stress. Yes, we cause our own stress.

    How do we cause our own stress? Well, the first method to our madness of causing stress is denial. We deny that anything is wrong. We deny that we are in the constant state of going no where and we say that everything is fine and that “someday” things will be different. We deny our stress by playing the victim. “Oh poor me, I have such a terrible life.”

    Sounds cruel, does it not? Guess what? You can have, be, do, whatever your heart desires. How do you have, be, do? Well, you decide what you want and find out how to get there. How do you get there? Google it! Read about it or ask someone who can show you it.

    How do you decide what you want? Well, we have a destress yourself class that can help you and show you a step by step process on how to destress yourself. This class will help with your discovery and evolution from a stressed life to a destressed life.

    When you destress yourself you change your thoughts, feelings, actions, and attitude. You change your thoughts, feelings, and actions of stressful habits to successful practices.

    If you are unhappy something must be done.

    If you are not living life with happiness, joy, energy, and vitality then you must do something about it.

    You can learn to be happy by destressing yourself and I can show you how, for free.

    Subscribe to this blog for the updated posts, visit my website, sign up for our free weekly newsletters, visit our store and download the free stress management audios.

    If you would like to live the life you dream of, let me help you.

    Learn to destress yourself, for free, by me, and learn what permanent stress relief really is.

    Thank you for visiting my blog.

    Hope this is helpful.

    Until next post… Don’t forget to have fun and be playful!

    Elizabeth

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